Plan a movie time – morning, long lunch, or evening. We know that art has a way of affecting us greatly. One of the most inspiring movies to experience is Amazing Grace (with Ioan Gruffudd). The story of William Wilberforce is extremely moving in several different ways.
Preparation for down the road....
After the movie, ask guys to pick a book to read during their All There journey. We have created a list for guys to pick from that will introduce them to different ideas with similar DNA (LINK to book list). In the Month Five Extra Mile offering, we ask that guys provide a verbal book report of the book they have chosen to read. Guys can read a book alone, or two guys can read one together and collaborate on it. Based on the number of verbal book reports, divide your time according and have the guys answer the questions below in an effort for each guy to walk away with a good understanding of the book (this is a way to multiply good ideas with guys who are extremely busy).
Members of cohorts are typically hungry for community and yet it is not fully formed until they introduce their spouses (or serious girlfriends) to the men they are on this journey with.
Ask someone to host a dinner or weekend lunch including spouses (we recommend no children except for infants).
Once the meal has started and everyone can hear everyone else, throw out these two questions to stimulate conversation:
Robert Lewis has impacted the lives of Christian men as much as anyone in the world. Millions of men in thousands of churches have been through the multi-year Men's Fraternity curriculum on what it means to live out the Biblical definition of manhood. All There is blessed to have Robert Lewis add to our Extra Mile offerings.
Robert's four segments on manhood are so rich, we suggest taking on one segment per Extra Mile gathering. Enjoy and soak it up.
Ask the guys to download the StrengthFinder Theme Cards here:: StrengthsFinder Theme Cards. Over the course of a meeting time allow each cohort member to walk through each card and answer these questions:
There is no better way to get to know someone than physically working alongside of them in service to someone. Find a service project to do together. There are many different options to consider – helping a widow with home repairs, raising funds for a family adopting, doing landscaping around an intercity church, helping in a food pantry, etc.
If one of the cohort members has identified an area of passion let him lead the efforts on the service project – go along in support to him.
In the Month Five Extra Mile offering, we ask that guys provide a verbal book report of the book they have chosen to read. Guys can read a book alone, or two guys can read one together and collaborate on it. Based on the number of verbal book reports, divide your time according and have the guys answer the questions below in an effort for each guy to walk away with a good understanding of the book (this is a way to multiply good ideas with guys who are extremely busy).
At the end of this time, ask the guys to choose another book to read and discussed in month ten.
Chariots of Fire (with Ben Cross) is another movie that can impact you for a lifetime. Secure a copy of Chariots of Fire and watch it together. Attempt to watch the movie in a room with a good sound system.
MORE TO COME
Work through these questions once again:
Just like in month four, plan another work project. There is no way to overestimate how community is formed when men put their shoulders to the same plow. In addition, serving has a way of bringing clarity to specific callings – even if the service is way outside of your calling.
Host a final dinner with cohort members and spouses. Make it a celebration of this 12-month investment. Ask guys and spouses to respond to these questions:
Ask the men to affirm one another in front of their spouses. Sages should lead the way in this – perhaps even preparing beforehand.
Based on your group and your understanding of what they value, the Sages might want to provide some sort of keepsake to commemorate the All There journey. That keepsake might range from a printed certificate to an embroidered leather portfolio (or anything in-between).