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MOVIE TIME

Plan a movie time – morning, long lunch, or evening.  We know that art has a way of affecting us greatly.  One of the most inspiring movies to experience is Amazing Grace (with Ioan Gruffudd).  The story of William Wilberforce is extremely moving in several different ways.

  • Amazing Grace confronts an ugly part of our history.  It forces us to wrestle with the actions and beliefs of our forefathers.  And, if they wrestled with slavery, what do we need to wrestle with?
  • Wilberforce is a great example of a man that understands his “Great Objects” that God has placed before him and works through the best way to address his calling – by doing what he is already gifted to do in the British Parliament.
  • Amazing Grace is the story of a hard fought battle followed by success and a legacy that will stand forever.

Preparation for down the road....

After the movie, ask guys to pick a book to read during their All There journey.  We have created a list for guys to pick from that will introduce them to different ideas with similar DNA (LINK to book list).  In the Month Five Extra Mile offering, we ask that guys provide a verbal book report of the book they have chosen to read.  Guys can read a book alone, or two guys can read one together and collaborate on it.  Based on the number of verbal book reports, divide your time according and have the guys answer the questions below in an effort for each guy to walk away with a good understanding of the book (this is a way to multiply good ideas with guys who are extremely busy).

Questions:

  1. What is the main idea of the book you read?
  2. What action or behavior does the book call you toward?
  3. How does this book affect you?
  4. Did you disagree with anything the author espouses?
  5. Will you recommend this book?  Why, or why not?

 

FAMILY DINNER

Members of cohorts are typically hungry for community and yet it is not fully formed until they introduce their spouses (or serious girlfriends) to the men they are on this journey with.

Ask someone to host a dinner or weekend lunch including spouses (we recommend no children except for infants). 

Once the meal has started and everyone can hear everyone else, throw out these two questions to stimulate conversation:

  1. How did you meet your spouse?
  2. If the two of you could go somewhere together – where would it be?

 

THE BASICS OF MANHOOD (4 parts)

Robert Lewis has impacted the lives of Christian men as much as anyone in the world.  Millions of men in thousands of churches have been through the multi-year Men's Fraternity curriculum on what it means to live out the Biblical definition of manhood.  All There is blessed to have Robert Lewis add to our Extra Mile offerings.  

Robert's four segments on manhood are so rich, we suggest taking on one segment per Extra Mile gathering.  Enjoy and soak it up.

View the videos with Robert Lewis at this page.


STRENGTHSFINDER REVISITED

Ask the guys to download the StrengthFinder Theme Cards here:: StrengthsFinder Theme Cards.  Over the course of a meeting time allow each cohort member to walk through each card and answer these questions:

  • Since being made aware of this strength in your life, how do you see it playing out?
  • How has the “basement” side of your strength (remember the basement and balcony worksheet provided at the Launch Experience?) reared its ugly head?
  • What is your plan to develop your strength?
  • What do you like about the concept of operating in your areas of strengths?  What do you not like?
  • How will you use the StrenthsFinder concept in the future?

 

WORK PROJECT

There is no better way to get to know someone than physically working alongside of them in service to someone.  Find a service project to do together.  There are many different options to consider – helping a widow with home repairs, raising funds for a family adopting, doing landscaping around an intercity church, helping in a food pantry, etc.

If one of the cohort members has identified an area of passion let him lead the efforts on the service project – go along in support to him.

 

COMMUNITY LEARNING REPORT OUT

In the Month Five Extra Mile offering, we ask that guys provide a verbal book report of the book they have chosen to read.  Guys can read a book alone, or two guys can read one together and collaborate on it.  Based on the number of verbal book reports, divide your time according and have the guys answer the questions below in an effort for each guy to walk away with a good understanding of the book (this is a way to multiply good ideas with guys who are extremely busy).

Questions:

  1. What is the main idea of the book you read?
  2. What action or behavior does the book call you toward?
  3. How does this book affect you?
  4. Did you disagree with anything the author espouses?
  5. Will you recommend this book?  Why, or why not?

At the end of this time, ask the guys to choose another book to read and discussed in month ten.

 

MOVIE TIME #2 (CHARIOTS OF FIRE)

Chariots of Fire (with Ben Cross) is another movie that can impact you for a lifetime.  Secure a copy of Chariots of Fire and watch it together.  Attempt to watch the movie in a room with a good sound system. 

  • Chariots of Fire tells the powerful story of Eric Liddell’s journey as he wrestled with his calling and the contrast between the intuitive choice of serving God and the counterintuitive choice.
  • Draw attention to the way that Liddell used his platform to bring attention and glory to God.
  • Ask: how does this movie affect you?

  

A BRIEFING ON MARRIAGE

MORE TO COME

 

COMMUNITY LEARNING REPORT OUT #2

Work through these questions once again:

  1. What is the main idea of the book you read?
  2. What action or behavior does the book call you toward?
  3. How does this book affect you?
  4. Did you disagree with anything the author espouses?
  5. Will you recommend this book?  Why, or why not?

 

WORK PROJECT #2

Just like in month four, plan another work project.  There is no way to overestimate how community is formed when men put their shoulders to the same plow.  In addition, serving has a way of bringing clarity to specific callings – even if the service is way outside of your calling. 

 

GRADUATION DINNER

Host a final dinner with cohort members and spouses.  Make it a celebration of this 12-month investment.  Ask guys and spouses to respond to these questions:

Cohort Members:

  • How has this year affected you?
  • What is one thing that will forever be different about your life after this year?

Spouses:

  • How has your husband changed over the last year?  What have you noticed about his life?
  • What do you hope for your husband’s future?

 

Ask the men to affirm one another in front of their spouses.  Sages should lead the way in this – perhaps even preparing beforehand.

  • I see this in you…
  • You have affected me this way…
  • I have seen God use you this way…
  • Doing life alongside you is great because…

Based on your group and your understanding of what they value, the Sages might want to provide some sort of keepsake to commemorate the All There journey.  That keepsake might range from a printed certificate to an embroidered leather portfolio (or anything in-between).